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A Fireproof Marriage & A Pre-Wedding: Chih Wei & Diana

By 02/03/2012 14 Comments

“Fireproof doesn’t mean that a fire will never come, but that when it comes, you’ll be able to withstand it.” – from the film Fireproof – 

It’s definitely one of my favourite films about love and relationships. If you have never heard of this Christian film before, it’s a story about a firefighter, Caleb, who tries to save his marriage from burning to the ground. Everything seems to be going from bad to worse, which eventually leads him to consider divorce. At the lowest point of his life, Caleb’s dad gave him a Love Dare challenge – to perform a simple act of love for his spouse every day for 40 days. It could be something as simple as resolving not to say anything negative to your spouse the entire day.

“The sad part about it is, when most people promise for better or for worse, they really only mean for the better.” 

The film spoke to me in many ways. Just like the quote above, it made me think about life and relationships. How often we go into marriage thinking everything will be rosy every single day of our lives. I often think of love as a choice and commitment. It’s not just a feeling or emotion, because when tough times come (as they surely will), we may not feel like we want to carry through with that commitment. It’s at times like these that you remember your vow to your spouse – for better or for worse. Choice to me does not mean that I have the option to leave anytime I want. It means that I choose to love that person even when I don’t feel like it.

And when tough times come into my marriage, I can say that it’s fireproof.

I was really excited when Chih Wei and Diana took out their Love Dare book from their bag during our pre-wedding session. I think it’s really awesome that couples desire to make their marriage fireproof by going through books like these together.

I was happy to hear that Diana also attends the same church I used to attend when I was studying in Australia years ago. It’s great that we have common friends and similar values in life. Once I got to know Chih Wei and Diana, I knew that we could instantly connect. Diana lives in Brisbane whereas Chih Wei works in Malaysia. I definitely respect any couple who goes through a long distance relationship and survives it! So much patience, understanding and effort needs to be sown into that relationship daily.

Since they are getting married this weekend, I thought I’d share some images from their pre-wedding session here. Congratulations Chih Wei & Diana, and may your marriage be filled with lots of exciting moments!

“When a man is trying to win the heart of a woman, he studies her. He learns her likes, dislikes, habits and hobbies. But after he wins her heart and marries her, he often stops learning about her. It is a lifelong journey that draws his heart ever closer to hers.” – from Fireproof – 

So, here is where I’d like to do something for our blog readers. If you feel like these words have struck a chord in your heart and you’d like to watch this film, do write to me at grace.tan[at]stories.my or leave a comment here and I would love to give you an original copy of this DVD. It’s not a competition, but a sincere gift. We do have limited numbers of this DVD, so unfortunately it will have to be on a first come, first served basis.

Have a great weekend, everyone!

Join the discussion 14 Comments

  • Goingkookies says:

    I would definitely love to watch this movie. Any ideas how may I get my hands on this movie?

  • kktan says:

    hi Grace, I would love to have a copy of the DvD of this highly regarded movie… to fireproof my relationship. :)
     

  • CandyG says:

    I just sent you an email! Would love to take some time to watch the DVD and share it with my friends. How may i get it?

  • Michelle says:

    Hi Grace, that is so generous of you..I will be really thankful if you share the DVD with me too! Thanks

  • Michelle may says:

    Dear stories, your work are beautiful and phenomenal!! (as usual) and would love a copy of the DVD, and would probably buy a copy of the book… Sounds interesting….

  • Hazel says:

    Dear Grace, i would love to have a copy of this movie.. How may I get it?

  • Grace Tan says:

    Dear all, thank you so much for leaving your comments here! I’d love to give all of you a copy however, we won’t be able to do so for everyone. Please email me so I have your address and contact number and I would get back to you soon. The DVD can also be purchased at Salvation bookstores or ordered here – http://www.amazon.com/Fireproof-Kirk-Cameron/dp/B001KEHAFI

  • Charlene says:

    It’s amazing how i am faithful viewer of this blog, and out of a sudden, i see pictures of people i know like Chih Wei. So happy for them and i really love viewing all your pictures stories.my – God bless! :)

  • lv says:

    like charlene, i was so delighted to see people i know here too…. Di and CW!!! they’ve come a long way….. and yeah, Fireproof movie has touched me in so many different ways i totally recommend :)

  • Joanne Hue says:

    like the quote:“When a man is trying to win the heart of a woman, he studies her. He learns her likes, dislikes, habits and hobbies. But after he wins her heart and marries her, he often stops learning about her. It is a lifelong journey that draws his heart ever closer to hers.” – from Fireproof -“

  • Elfie Tan says:

    Such a lovely story. Would love to watch it if I have a chance ;-)

  • Stories.my - International Wedding & Portrait Phot says:

    Joanne, it’s true, isn’t it? Elfie, it’s definitely worth watching! Hey what are you doing over the 17 & 18th weekend? Celebrating your birthday?

  • Joanne Hue says:

    I can’t deny…sadly to say. But as a woman who is being wooed then, will also put up her best self so that the man can’t find much fault in her. After marriage, each discover each other more…and have by then accepted each other’s flaws n goodness. Those that can’t accept…is separation/divorce. I like the last sentence…that it is a lifelong journey that draws his heart ever closer to hers…just like this moment, being preg with our no 3, TOT after coming to 2 decades fr courtship to marriage…sometimes just looking at my hubb can let my heart skips a beat “) I m still discovering more of him too…but he is like already knows me inside out!

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