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Grace Tan

Dancing Around KL City Centre

As a Canon EOS ambassador, I get to test out the new EOS R5 and a few lenses, namely the RF 15-35mm f2.8 and 85mm f2.0 macro. I contacted my friend, Joanna Koleth, who is an amazing dance-artist, and some other amazing vendors who made this shoot happen. Soon, we were doing jumps around KL city centre. This shoot is part of a bigger project, one that involves a few other photographers. But that is yet to be revealed. The theme of the shoot revolves around this word, Harmony.

When conceptualizing the shoot, I thought about this word and what it means to me. A quick Google search revealed the meaning of harmony as “the state of being in agreement or concord.” As a Malaysian, I truly desire a state where the people in our land can live in harmony with each other. Our country is full of culture and heritage, and we’ve gone through good and bad seasons since celebrating our independence in 1957.

Learning how to balance our diversity with unity is not easy. Harmony is not just an outward appearance of accepting each other, it’s respecting each individual as they are. It’s also about merging old and new mindsets so that we can grow as a nation.

It’s a delicate dance.

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Lessons I Learnt in 14 Years of Marriage

It was 14 years ago, exactly on this date that I said my vows at my dream wedding. I had 200 guests seated at the garden of the Palace of the Golden Horses, all dressed in shades of purple or white. It was the perfect day. There was a cool breeze that day, and everything went smoothly, despite a little accident that broke a portion of the trishaw I was transporting from Malacca for the ceremony that day.

14 years flew by, it wasn’t short, but it didn’t feel so long either. I do not remember the personalised vows I said that day but thank God for videos…all the memories were recorded beautifully. I was an idealistic 27 year old bride. I believed in true love and I found it. But I didn’t know how much work it takes to stay in love.

I’ve learnt many lessons over these 14 years. It took me some time to learn them, so if I could speak to my 27 year old self, I’d say…

The romance may disappear but true love is deeper than just feelings

The commitment we made to one another that day was the seal that brought us together. The heart palpitations faded after a while, but it didn’t mean I was less in love with the man I married so many years ago. The love I feel now is much deeper because of my understanding of who he is, and how much he tries to make things work for the family.

Change yourself first

We had a difficult first year of marriage trying to understand each other. In between tears and feelings of insecurity, I had to come to terms with my own weaknesses. If you accept responsibility for your own actions, your marriage will thank you for it.

If you want the fun and adventure to carry on, you need to make time for it

Life goes on after a while. The bills need to get paid, children come along, and soon, the only excitement you get is to choose which movie to watch on Netflix that night. We really had to make time for date nights where we spent time talking or exploring some new activity. This is even more important after the children are born.

Make time to listen

Even though we work in the same office, there were days when we just breezed through life without saying anything significant to one another. I had to learn to listen with undivided attention so that I could understand his needs. Frequent conversations was the key that made us feel connected.

Always forgive

We might have differing opinions, but we always attempt to resolve issues before sleeping. We need to remember that we are on the same side, not against one another. If there is a problem, it’s our problem, not the other person’s problem. Through the years, we had to learn what it means to speak kindly in the midst of a disagreement.
Ultimately, the very cord that holds us together is our love for Jesus Christ. It’s our belief system that kept us unified all these years. 14 years and counting.

If you would like to follow my marriage and parenting journey, please head on to Comma: Rethink Life.

Raya Family Portraits: The Nasimuddin Family

Over the past five years the Raya festive season means one thing for us – getting to photograph the Nasimuddin family! Just like last year, we did two photo shoots over two days. One for Datuk Wira SM Faisal Nasimuddin and his siblings which include Diana, SM Nasarudin and Marion Caunter, SM Faliq and Chryseis Tan, and another just for the family of Nadia Nasimuddin and Hamzah Alang Tan Sri Azman Shah.

It’s nice to have a yearly tradition like this because you get to document the growth of the children. When I told Marion that I still remember how Liam crawled away from our group photo years ago, she cracked up laughing because she remembered that moment too. Now he is so big! I think it’s the shared experience that makes a yearly photo shoot like this so special and wonderful. We get to journey alongside them. It is also nice to see new babies added to the family each year! As much as it is a joy for the family to have this tradition, it is special for us too. We’ll admit we also enjoy eating the best homemade rendang every Raya at their household! More photos below.

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Temple Wedding: Daniel & Prisila

Last month we posted the set from Daniel & Prisila’s church wedding ceremony. As promised, here’s the collection from their temple wedding the next day in Kuala Lumpur! Our team geared up again, and set out to capture some of the happiest moments that took place against the temple’s vibrant backdrop. It was so nice to see familiar faces in the crowd again and each person looked ravishing, as the couple’s family and close friends were donned in beautiful traditional Indian silks for the occasion. View the set below!

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The Wedding of Daniel & Prisila


Daniel and Prisila’s fate was brought together by a dental visit. She was a practising dentist and he was her patient. He needed to see a dentist urgently one day and got her number from a mutual friend. Making the appointment just the night before, he told us, “From her profile photo, I realised she was hot!”

He didn’t have another reason to see her after that appointment but she definitely lingered on in his mind after. “She was very professional yet ever so sweet and gentle. She put on a surgical mask and started treating me. All I could see were her eyes and I couldn’t help staring. I distinctly remember being mesmerised by them. I remember having drinks with some close friends that evening and telling them about how gorgeous she was,” Daniel recalls.
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