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Musings: Communication & Expectations

One trend that I’ve noticed is how often photographers include their spouses in their business. For example, Jasmine Star has her husband JD 2nd shoot for her, Louis Pang has his wife Jasmine run the office, and Jenny Sun has her husband Ju 2nd shooting at times as well. Some of my photographer friends say they try to get their wives/husbands involved. Some prefer bags to camera gear. And I mean LV bags. So that won’t do.

Well, I do the same with Alex. When I first started shooting weddings, it was natural to ask him along. I felt a sense of security and bonding when we can do fun stuff together. Alright, I admit, not everyone’s idea of fun is standing on your feet for 10 hours, lugging heavy gear around, but thank God Alex does not complain.

The benefit of having yr spouse shooting with you is that you can share rooms when you’re outstation shooting a wedding. After a long day of shoot, you can come back and cuddle after a nice relaxing hot shower.

But what if one day, Alex decides not to shoot with me anymore? Gasp! What would I do? How would I feel?

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I wonder sometimes if I can be a pretty selfish person. I like having him with me, doing fun stuff together (especially the things I consider fun). There are always 2 types of couples: One that does everything together and you think that they are joined at the hip. And the other that does NOTHING together other than meals or movies.

So what do I really expect from my spouse? What would my expectations be and would I be disappointed if his ideals change one day? What if Alex said one day, “I’d rather spend the entire day on Twitter and surfing the net than shooting with you”. Would I say, “It’s ok dear” but silently harbour a grudge because he PREFERS not to do the things I do?

Expectations can be an evil thing that rears its head every once in a while.

“But you’re the wife, I expected you to clean the house every week!”

“Why can’t you be a man and make decisions for once! I have to do everything!”

“I thought you’d stop playing computer games after we’re married and give me more attention for once. I keep seeing the back of your head everyday”

Yup, expectations can be the cause of many arguments especially if it is not communicated properly from the start.

Speaking of which, now that Alex is sick today, I better be the dutiful wife and nurse him back to health.

Musings: A Lifelong Covenant

It’s one of our goals this year to make the Wedding Story blog more interesting to readers. Of course there’ll always be postings of videos and photos of our work but we want to do more than that. One of the ideas we have is to share more from our lives, so that you get to know the people behind Wedding Story. We love to get personal with our clients, so we do hope that our posts will help you get to know us better!

It’s been about a year now since I ventured into weddings professionally. And about close to 3 years since I became a wife. I thought that over time, I’d like to share little musings and tips that I’ve learnt over the years, not just as a wedding professional, but also as a previous bride who planned her own wedding with the help of friends & family, and also as a wife, and perhaps in the future, as a mother (doesn’t mean I’m pregnant now ok!).

Most the things I’ll be sharing, I’ve learnt through experience or from another friend’s experience.

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Lately, I’ve seen a number of friends getting married and some getting engaged. It must be every little girl’s dream as they grow up to be a bride one day, to wear that lovely white dress and walk down that aisle. A friend asked me today, “How’s married life, coming to 3 years now?”. I haven’t seen him in a while, and though I wanted to exclaim, “I love it!” I thought to myself, “Would he really take me seriously?”

You see, to him, after being married for 24 years now, with 2 kids approaching adulthood, marriage is something that has declined to a state of existence. I’ve seen many people who started out with tears in their eyes, filled with romance, only to walk separate ways with a different set of tears 2 years down the road. A photographer friend shared with me once too that before she could deliver the wedding photos, this client of hers has anulled the marriage (after 6 weeks).

Marriage is something that can bring so much joy and yet to some, it also means heartache and loneliness. When I said my vows to Alex 3 years ago, I knew that this would be for life. I know that realistically, life is not a bed full of roses. But saying those vows meant that I made a commitment for life. When I got married, our pastor said that we are making a covenant, not a contract. A contract can be broken by any party whenever they find something disatisfactory, but a covenant is an oath. It’s something that I have promised to keep for life, between myself, Alex and God.

It gives me security to know that Alex has the same views towards marriage as well. That no matter how difficult times get, we would work things out and live life with no regrets. Saying I’m sorry could be one of the hardest things to do, but it could be the key to saving our marriage in the future.

Jack & LeAnne – Pre-Wedding at Putrajaya

I’ve been to Putrajaya a number of times but all this while, I’ve never shot there before. So when Jack and LeAnne requested for a pre-wedding shoot in Putrajaya, I thought, ok where to start!? There’s just too many buildings and too many choices. The best thing about Putrajaya as I discovered was the lalang. Plentiful of good lalang to take shots in! :) We started our shoot in the afternoon and carried on till after sunset. I love how Putrajaya looks at night, it’s just a completely different feeling to the day shots.

Jack and LeAnne seem quite at ease in front of the camera. Jack is into photography as well, so Leanne’s pretty good at posing in front of the camera. She has had practice. :) It’s easy to make her look good on camera because she is super photogenic. I’ll be shooting their wedding in Ipoh this coming week, so am looking forward to that!

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Don’t they look gorgeous together? Her laughter is so infectious.

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Her gorgeous gown is from our vendor partner That Special Occasion. You can choose from a variety of gowns when you book a pre-wedding session with us.

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I don’t usually shoot pre-weddings on my own because it’s a lot easier when you have someone holding a flash or light for you! This time round, I had 2 with me – Nigel Sia who recently joined the Wedding Story team and Hafiz Ismail who tagged along that day. Thanks Hafiz for pointing the way to good lalang. :) Here’s a funny shot of the both of them clowning around!

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The sunset in Putrajaya that day was absolutely stunning! I haven’t seen such a good sunset within 50 km radius of KL for quite some time.

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Warren & Amy Weds! Part 1

Some time back I blogged about Warren and Amy’s portrait session at KTM. Recently Warren and Amy said “I do!” to each other in the company of many witnesses at Putrajaya Marriott. There’s just so much joy and love in this wedding. It just overflows, you really cannot contain it! Amy is such a beautiful bride, it’s no surprise that Warren could hardly take his eyes off her that day! There are thousands of photos from this wedding, it was a really tough choice to choose just a few to highlight here. Photos were taken by Grace and Mark.

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The guys trying to peek into the room as Amy is getting ready. Warren just can’t wait to see his bride!

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Finally they get to meet!

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At the hall, everyone waits in anticipation for Amy to walk in.

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Warren was just beaming!

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20090509_WEDDING_WARREN_AMY_1145.jpgAmy cried as she told her parents how much they mean to her.

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Warren and Amy Weds! Part 2

After the ceremony we took some portraits before the sun sets. I always recommend setting aside 45 mins to an hour to get these type of shots on your wedding day. Just a short time alone from all the crowd, just the both of you.

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The dinner reception started not too long after the ceremony ended. They had a really neat idea of taking polaroid shots of their guests and then sticking the photos in a guest book where the guests would sign next to it. Their polaroid photographer was pretty good at posing himself!

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Senior pastor of DUMC, Pastor Daniel said grace before dinner started.

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Amy’s dad gave a really good speech!

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Another great speech by Warren’s dad. His sisters were excellent emcees.

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The best men…

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The highlight of the night was when Amy and her dad performed a duet. They both sang extremely well!

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There were lots and lots of singing that night. Definitely a talented family!

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If these photos aren’t enough to whet your appetite, view another 100 or so photos here in this slideshow. Runs for 10 minutes. Enjoy!